I wanted to try something a little bit different this month – a build your own reading! While February is often seen as the month of love, I decided to focus on a general message, a message for self-care, and a message for a specific relationship in your life. Note that this does not need to be a romantic relationship, but instead is any relationship that you want advice on.
Read the questions below, and before you make your choice, ask them either aloud or in your mind. Focus briefly on the question, and then choose the card you feel called towards. Cards are numbered 1 – 9 from left to right, starting with 1 on the top left, 4 on the middle left, and 7 on the bottom left. Make note of your choices, and then scroll down to build your February reading!
- Question One: What do I need to know this month?
- Question Two: What do I need to focus on for myself?
- Question Three: Think of a relationship in your life. What do I need to bring into my relationship with (name)?
With the three questions in mind, take a look at the cards and make your choices. This month we’re using the Trinity Tarot by Matt Wisner.
Card One (Top Left) – The Tower
Change is coming, whether you’re ready for it or not. As advice for the month ahead, The Tower asks you to expect the unexpected. Get out in front of change, and make adjustments where you feel you need. By embracing this uprooting, you will be able to emerge stronger on the other side.
It’s time to care take of yourself; check your foundations, and see where the cracks are beginning to appear. What changes can you make to improve your situation? Know that sometimes it’s worth it to give into the chaos, to go through the destruction to gain the experience and insight needed to proceed. Don’t be afraid. Remember, the way that we cope with the changes brought on by the Tower show who we are, and what we are capable of.
For the relationship you have in mind, know that’s time to shake things up! Things may take a difficult turn as you face challenges that you never saw coming. It’s how you deal with these moments that will determine in the outcome going forward. It is in times of strife that we can see someone’s true colours. Regardless of the outcome, an important aspect of your relationship will come to light.
Card Two (Top Middle) – Five of Cups
The Five of Cups appears when we are focussing on what we do not have. This leads to feelings of disappointment, regret, and sadness. You may find yourself overwhelmed with these types of feelings this month. It’s important to understand that there is nothing wrong with grieving loss. We need to move through these emotions so that we can reflect, and move forward.
When it comes to self-care, the five of cups is all about freeing yourself from your past, and being able to once again see a future. Engage in daily gratitude practice. Don’t continue to berate yourself for mistakes from the past. Instead, make an effort to learn from them. Forgive yourself.
Card Three (Top Right) – Ace of Swords
Card Four (Middle Left) – Six of Wands
Make February all about celebrating your victories, accepting praise and support for the work you’ve done thus far, and preparing for what’s next to come. Give yourself the opportunity to pause, and reflect on how far you’ve come. Be proud of yourself for reaching a certain milestone or level of success. You’ve earned it!
When it comes to yourself, it’s time to focus on your accomplishments. If you’re not quite there yet, know that a marker of success is right around the corner. Enjoy what you’ve earned. Allow yourself to take a break, and spend some time doing activities that bring you happiness and joy. However, remember that this is only a resting point in your journey.
The Six of Wands is a great card to have in the month of February when it comes to relationships because it’s time to celebrate! Whatever the nature of your connection, know that it brings you both joy and fulfillment. Spend time together, deepen your bond, kick back and have an adventure! While there still may be work to be done to deepen your bond, it’s important to express your happiness the simple pleasure that you find in togetherness.
Card Five (Middle Middle) – Ten of Pentacles
Fulfillment and success – what more could you want from the month of February? This card is a sign that if you put in the hard work and effort, you will be able to reach a milestone of stability. It is important to note that this security is not a given – if you don’t put in the work, it will not come to fruition.
This month spend time looking at the big picture, and ensuring that you have a plan for the future. Work towards stability and security – in whatever capacity they mean to you. Give yourself time to relax. Enjoy the fruits of your labour, and the company of those you consider family – whether they’re related by blood or choice.
In your relationship, the Ten of Pentacles signifies a happy, prosperous time. You have a great, stable connection that is build on solid foundation. Of course, it’s important to remember that all relationships take effort. Be sure that you’re still investing time into your partnership so that it can continue to flourish.
Card Six (Middle Right) – Ace of Wands
It’s time to let your creativity and passions soar! Take the exciting, fiery energy from the Ace of Wands and run with it. With all of those ideas swirling around in your head, this is the sign to take action. Try new things, and open yourself to new adventures – what are you waiting for?
For yourself personally, focus on your creative spirit. What are you being called to bring into the world? What vision do you have that makes you excited to be alive? This is a great time to be bold, courageous, and put yourself out into the world. It’s likely that you will find this energy and enthusiasm coming in spurts, so take advantage when it does.
When we look at the Ace of Wands with the relationship in mind, this is a sign that you have a great attraction between you – of course this doesn’t have to be a romantic or sexual attraction, you just seem to click. There are times when there are bursts of temper, but you’re able to bounce back quickly. This month, try something new together – something that brings laughter and adventure into your connection.
Card Seven (Bottom Left) – Nine of Cups
The Nine of Cups brings us happiness and fulfillment. It reminds us to be grateful for all the wonderful things that are present in our lives, and encourages us to practice gratitude on a daily basis. Our lives can change at the blink of an eye, so appreciate the good times, and make an effort to live in the present.
When it comes to a personal focus, the Nine of Cups asks you to find contentment. What makes you happy, and brings you emotional fulfillment? Dedicate time and effort into that pursuit this month. Remember that your wishes and dreams can come true, especially if you get out of your own way. Give into the success and the satisfaction – you deserve it!
In a relationship, the Nine of Cups is all about focusing on the positives of the relationship, and spending some heartfelt, quality time together. Appreciate what you bring into each other’s lives. Get silly, be playful, and just enjoying being. If you are thinking about a romantic relationship, this is the perfect time to amp up the romance a little.
Card Eight (Bottom Middle) – Temperance
Temperance is all about striving to find balance and moderation in life. It’s not always an easy task, especially when the world is still on uncertain terms. However, this month it’s important to find ways to bring peace and tranquility into your every day. A certain amount of patience and calm will help to temper the craziness of the times.
Where are you overdoing it or what areas of your life need more attention? Take time to consider each aspect of your life, and work on making adjustments to bring the scales to a more equal standpoint. Engage in activities that create peace within, and work on building your patience to see things through. Remember, this is not the time to engage in extremes.
For your relationship, Temperance is an indication that you need to be patient with one another. This is not the time for rash decisions; instead, work on understanding each other. Be considerate, and kind – we all need a little more of these in our daily lives. Remember, you don’t have to spend all of your time together to make a relationship work, nor do you always have to do activities that one side prefers. Work on making the roles and choices equal.
Card Nine (Bottom Right) – The Sun
Positivity, vibrance, and warmth – the Sun can be just what we need to warm these February days! Be optimistic, and let your positivity inspire others. Sometimes the sun can be so bright that we fail to see the darkness. This card is not encouraging you to ignore the bad, but instead view it through a filter of positive perception so that you can accept it, and move forward.
It’s time to focus on your personal success and happiness. Work towards your goals with confidence and enthusiasm. Live your truth, and step into your calling. Know that it’s okay to experience joy, even when times are difficult. Don’t forget to take care of your health; get outside. Feel the ground under your feet, and the sunlight on your face. Giving yourself a moment to connect with the world around you will do so much good.
The relationship you have in mind is filled with love and joy. If you feel that things between you have darkened a little, it’s time to reinvigorate those feelings. Have fun together, laugh, play, and simple enjoy being alive. Know that together you can create success. Celebrate what you have, but remember to address issues as they arise instead of sweeping them under the rug.